How To Practice Self-Care

Hello my Lovelies, I’m back again with another blog post. This time slightly different from my usual beauty and lifestyle posts. However, I think that the topic of this post is super important and everyone should give self care a go.

I hope you’ve all been doing well, I’ve come down with a massive cold so I’m led in bed all day binge watching Friends on Netflix. I have been practicing self care for around 2 months now and I can honestly say it’s the best thing I’ve done. Whether you’re in a good place or a bad place you will benefit from reading this.

Practicing self care is something that I don’t think many people really know how to do. I definitely didn’t know how to do it until a few months ago. There are so many benefits from self care you wouldn’t even realise. Self care has proven to improve your immune system, mental health, help you be more productive as well as the obvious making you feel better.

So you might be wondering how do you practice self care?

  1. Practice gratitude – write down 5 things that you’re appreciative for before you go to sleep. It could be thankful for having a roof over your head or grateful for something your friend did for you that day. It’s all about focusing your mind on the positives in life and not focusing all your time on the negatives.
  2. Meditate – this is a great one to start off with as its super easy. What could be more easy than sitting down and meditating? There are loads of apps out there that will guide you through mediation and make it a really enjoyable experience. My favourite app for meditation would be Calm which is available on the app store if you have an iPhone.
  3. Get Outside – sometimes there’s nothing more relaxing than getting outside and going for a walk. Clear your mind, take in the fresh air and take in the nature that surrounds you. Treat it as a mind detox, this is great even if you’re not in a bad mood at all.
  4. Do something you love – one of my favourite things to do is take a bath. Chuck in a Lush bath bomb, lots of bubbles and have my iPad on the side watching something on Netflix. Take some time to yourself and relax. Focus on yourself, even if it is only for 15 minutes in the bath
  5. Exercise – a great way to relax your body is yoga. It’s light and builds up muscle in your body as well. It’s not overpowering like maybe running on a treadmill would be or deadlifting 80KG in the gym. It’s a great way to relax your mind and body.
  6. Let your feelings out – don’t be afraid to talk to someone about how you feel. It could be, your mum, a friend even a counsellor. Talking about how you feel to someone doesn’t make you weak. Don’t bottle up your feelings.
  7. Practice breathing exercises – there are many apps that you can get on your phone that give you breathing exercises. It can reduce your heart rate when you are stressed or upset and get you back into a more rational mind. This is great everyday to help yourself get into regular self-care.
  8. Stress less – one major thing that someone who is extremely close to me has taught me is that you have to live in the present. There’s no point worrying about how you’re going to feel in the future or what’s going to happen in the future because the truth is, no one knows. What’s the point in stressing yourself out about the unknown?
  9. Eat healthy – detox your body, you will feel benefits physically as well as mentally which is super important for everyone to have a happy and healthy life.
  10. Put yourself first – you can’t help anyone if you don’t help yourself first. Stop caring about trying to please everyone else, stop worrying about what other people think about you because at the end of the day you are the most important person in your life.

“You can’t pour from an empty cup. Focus on yourself first.”

I hope everyone reading this takes into consideration starting to practice self care because it is so so important and it has helped me so much through some rough patches I’ve been going through.

Until next time,

K x

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10 Ways To De-Stress After A Long Day

Stressed, lethargic, ready to relax after a long day. I always have a few go to remedies to relieve stress and I can’t quite picture how high my blood pressure would be without them. It’s so easy to underestimate the negative impact of stress and the positive impact of simple stress relieving activities. I’m going to share with you some of my go to palliative methods that help me (and hopefully you) decompress, chill out and relax without a load of pseudo-science.

A Hot Bath – Ahhh my favourite first. I love taking baths, whether I’m stressed or just want to chill out for a bit. I stick some music on, run the water nice and hot, add some bubble bath and end up laying in there for far too long. Afterwards I feel so much more relaxed, most likely because all my muscles and joints have loosened up, by then it’s a perfect time for me to go to bed, stick some trash TV on and wind down before sleep.

Hypnosis – Here’s one you might not have thought of. Hypnosis is a great way to ease your mind and can be done at home with a laptop, headphones and some peace and quiet. There’s a particular channel I go to for hypnosis and it’s worked great for me when I’ve been stressed, I’ll link the channel underneath this paragraph. During hypnosis your breathing becomes slower and your heart rate drops as you enter that trance state. This is exactly what everyone needs when they’re stressed. It might seem strange, but give it a shot; it takes some practice but it’s a really useful tool to relax.

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Exercise – Exercise is a great way to chill out when you’re stressed. Exercise reduces the levels of the body’s stress hormones and it also releases endorphins (chemicals in the brain that are the body’s natural mood elevators). Therefore going out for a quick jog when you’re feeling stressed can you make you feel 10x better and more relaxed. If you’re feeling stressed after a long day all it takes is some exercise to increase the heart rate in order to release some endorphins and you will end up feeling much better.

Watch a funny film/TV series – One of my absolute favourite’s is The Inbetweeners. I have watched the entire box set around 10 times and it never becomes boring. If I’m feeling a bit down or stressed out I will chuck the TV on and giggle away to The Inbetweeners. I would also highly recommend watching the film ‘Bridesmaids‘ if you’re looking for a funny film to cheer you up.

Go for a walk – This is sort of similar to the exercise point but I have always found going for a walk is much more easy to convince yourself to do if you’re stressed out. Go for a walk and take in all the scenery and clear your mind. By the end of the walk your mind will be clear and you will be ready for the rest of your day/night.

Listen to some music – Listening to music is almost like it takes your mind to another place. There is a lot of music out there that is so relatable and can make your mind feel at ease. It can slow your heart rate and decreases the levels of stress hormones. Everyone has their own taste of music but try listening to something other than your chosen genre and see if you like it. You never know, listening to come classical music might relax you.

Meditate – Meditation can help reduce stress and anxiety. You can just take 10 minutes out of your day when you’re feeling stressed and practice meditation. This puts you into state of deep relaxation where the breathing becomes slower, heart rate decreases and the mind is focused on relaxing. Being able to achieve this level of relaxation can be proven to reduce levels of everyday stress.

Disconnect – A great way to de-stress at the end of a long day is turning your phone off. As ironic as it is to be writing about this on a social media site,  social media can have a terrible impact on our well-being. It’s said that 1 in 10 posts on Facebook will contain negative information or imagery. Imagine after a long day all you see is a bunch of negative, draining information; no thank you. As well as being pestered by others by text, phone call etc., turn your phone off every once in a while, it won’t hurt to leave a few messages waiting now and again.

Read – I’m not a huge fan of reading myself but when I get stuck into a book I really like I love reading. I have recently started to read ‘The Chimp Paradox’ by Dr Steven Peters. This book is all about understanding our emotions, thoughts and feelings towards everything in life and crafting the tools to manage these. It helps us rationalise our thoughts and curb anxiety, stress and all the other nuisance issues that come with our emotions. I would highly recommend this book as it’s such an easy and interesting read.

Nap – Well this is pretty self explanatory, have a kip and you’re more than likely going to wake up feeling much better. One of the ways I manage myself is by asking this simple question, ‘Am I tired or hungry?’. Most of the time when I’m stressed, irritable or can’t be bothered to do anything is due to being tired, hungry or both. I guarantee that if you fix one of these you’ll feel much better. So next time you feel your blood pressure rising, ask yourself, ‘Am I tired or hungry?’.

So there we go, just 10 ways to help you de-stress. At the end of the day, things aren’t so bad, take a deep breath, a bath, a nap, whatever it is and allow yourself to relax. Being stressed is a choice (in my opinion), why are you stressed? What can you do about it? Figure these things out to de-clutter and de-stress your life. And don’t forget to read my blog for that extra special stress treatment.

Let me know what you do to de-stress at the end of a long day and if any of my methods helped you relax.

Until next time,

K x